the gorgeous spiffymuffin tagged me in the six selfies thing, so here’s a selection from 2014
Note: The REAL Piper of Orange is the New Black has clearly stated, "Well, you know, I’m bisexual so, I’m a part of the gay community.” Additionally she has pointed out that she came out at "either 18 or 19", and "had relationships with many, many women before I met Nora and after I met Nora."
So viewers should be aware that it was a "creative decision" of the shows writers, producers + NetFlix to minimize and erase the character’s actual + stated bisexuality by never using the "B-Word", turning her instead into a tired bisexual trope. This should not be viewed as at all realistic.
IRL Piper Kerman is a strong, interesting, out bisexual women in a different gender marriage, who participates in her LGBT Community and works hard for Prison Reform.
I hate this because there’s all this implication on the show that her sexual interactions with women are deviant, something she does under the influence of Vause or something she ‘turns to’ in prison. Like she would be this nice and neat little heterosexual if it wasn’t for that super-sexy, seductive drug runner and/or being lonely in prison. Which is gross. That’s gross.
Polish doctor that refused to perform abortion named a “hero”
Dr Bogdan Chazan was visited by an expecting mother (32 weeks into pregnancy), who already had 5 miscarriages before and was worried about her health. It turned out that the fetus had hydrocephalus, undeveloped brain and was missing many bones from its skull. The Doctor refused to perform an abortion and didn’t send the woman to another hospital which could do so (according to polish law, if a doctor doesn’t want to perform an abortion, he has to choose another hospital which will agree to do so). Chazan was named a “local hero” and “true warrior of Jesus in the name of life of the unborn” by many polish politicians and catholic activists. He used conscience clause as an excuse for his actions.
The woman gave birth to the child through a C-section. She and her husband spent 10 painful days watching their deformed child die a horrible death. When she finally decided to speak out, she said:
“During these 10 days, no priest, no pro life activist or even dr Chazan came to see the child, to ask if they can help. It was really hard to look at our child. We knew what was coming, but it was still very hard to cope with”
Congratulations, pro-lifers - another “life” saved, another “happy” child and “happy” family.
But these people are ‘for life’ and don’t want people do suffer. Fuck every one of these fuckholes. I hate them all.
This is horrifying.
Life begins at fertilization and ends at birth according to pro-lifers because after that you might as well bury the children they don’t give a damn about those that are born already.
I was all excited because the picture on facebook that I mentioned yesterday that had gotten over 1,000 likes is now over 2,600 likes, nearly 100 comments and almost 50 shares
and I was like “whoa why would someone share a picture of me??? let me see” and I should not have
a girl shared it and wrote “can I look like this, please ._.” so I understand the following comments
while I am of the opinion that it’s totally unnecessary to put down one woman in order to make another feel better, I understand that they were trying to cheer up their friend
I’ve been pretty much in a hate-hate relationship with my nose for as long as I can remember. since I was a little kid people would point out how big it was, and I’ve always been incredibly fixated on its awful bump and how much I hate how I look from the side
pretty much the entire reason the photo of myself in question is my favorite of all of the ones I’ve ever taken is that I think its the one in which my nose looks least hideous and the things about it I hate so much are least obvious
obviously this random person wouldn’t know this, but like. idk. I saw something recently here on tumblr in which someone just made a random, cruel post about how much they disliked a (fairly popular) blogger just for the heck of it, and the girl targeted made some good comments about how people who say those things on the internet seem to forget that the person they’re talking about, you know, actually exists. and unlike a celebrity or whatever, they can and very possibly will see the things you say, and because they are an actual human being with thoughts and feelings, they may be affected.
its like, you get to be cruel and say things you’d never dream of saying to someone’s face because you don’t have to face the consequences. you don’t have to experience them getting angry and yelling at you, or crying, or any other response. you can just say it and be on your merry way
oh and then there was this incredibly creative one on another share (in which the person said something about how I was “even more loli” than a friend of theirs, I’m assuming)
good job a+ you made fun of a woman on the internet for not having tits! incredible. such creativity. you can bet she definitely hasn’t been hearing that shit from friends and family and objectifying assholes since age 11! let me give you this gold medal for your bravery in commenting on women’s bodies on the internet
also my friend who posted the photo posted others as well, and I just looked through all of their shares and. yeah. I was literally the only one people felt the need to say negative things about. now I’ve got like 67 friend requests to sort through, most of which are probably older men who want to have sex with me, and I just. idk I need to go be away from the internet for a bit. I’ve already been feeling more anxious lately than usual so. idk
bicurious? yes, i am bi and very curious. when were balloons invented? how do they make playing cards? why do cats do the thing when you dangle strings in front of them? i have so many questions
selfieselca thing tagged by spiffymuffin
Hi everyone, so I made a post a few days ago about putting together a list of links for my lab partner, who wants to work with autistic children. This is what I’ve come up with. Admittedly it’s more of an “introduction to neurodiversity advocacy” primer, but I think that should come with the job, really. If you’ve got any suggestions, do let me know!
(And sorry for the odd formatting- I can’t for the life of me figure out how to make nesting bullets, even when I enter the html)
TW: mentions (but no discussion in this post) of ableism, neglect, assault, murder, abuse, ABA. All links come with their own warnings unless otherwise noted. If you find one that doesn’t, or is broken, please tell me.
About Autism Speaks:
1. About autism
2. What it really means when someone says they’re autistic
3. Diagnostic criteria suggested by autistic people (more on what it’s like to be autistic)
4. Yes, That Too’s tips for parents
5. What I Wish I’d Been Made Aware of When My Daughter Was Diagnosed With Autism
6. Tantrums vs meltdowns and shutdowns
8. Not an epidemic
9. Empathy and the Empath Quotient Test
10. Functioning labels
11. Person-first language
“Classics” and others widely circulated among autistic self-advocates:
1. The Obsessive Joy of Autism
2. Don’t Mourn For Us
3. Quiet Hands and Grabbers (TW: ableism, abuse, R-slur in Grabbers)
4. The Cost of Compliance is Unreasonable (TW for teachers forcing a child to do something they don’t want to do, huge TW for link within post)
- Similar, but not so widely spread, is The Influence of Others, a parent’s reaction to “Grabbers” (TW: ableism, abuse)
1. An Analogy (TW: trying to force someone out of autistic behavior)
2. On forcing eye contact
3. Doing “Nothing”
4. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly: my Assessment of Our Experience with ABA
5. More of Rose’s thoughts
- The post linked in the above (she changed her blog title, so “caffeinatedaspie” URL links don’t work)
6. An Open Letter to Parents Considering Intensive Behavioral Therapy for Their Child With Autism (TW: detailed descriptions of ABA methods, child’s PTSD)
- And Part Two (the link kind of gets lost at the bottom, so I put it here too)
- As disgusting as it is, a lot of people dismiss autistic voices on the topic of harmful therapy in favor of parents’ and child development professionals’ voices. The writers of this are both, so it may be useful to convince people with that attitude
Ableism (important to understand the prejudice autistic people face): (TW for ableism, neglect, assault, murder on this entire section)
1. Murders by parents and caregivers
2. Commentary on other people’s dismissal of murders
3. Transplant discrimination
4. Medical discrimination
5. The Pillow Angel (not autism, cerebral palsy, but important to recognize what people will do out of “concern” to a non-speaking person)
- And the video for it
Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN):
1. The Caffeinated Autistic (also goldenheartedrose on tumblr)
2. Yes, That Too (also yesthattoo on tumblr)
3. Autistic Hoya
4. Just Stimming
5. Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
6. Tiny Grace Notes (AKA Ask an Autistic)
8. The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
Things recommended by people I follow (but that I haven’t really looked at personally):
1. The ‘askanautistic’ tag on tumblr- tag your post with this and autistic people who are willing to educate others will see your question