Sexuality is fluid
you are permitted a maximum of one 3.4 oz (100 ml) bottle of sexuality per passenger, all bottles must be carried inside a ziplock bag and placed in a bin for inspection prior to boarding the aircraft
my first ever infographic
Important to know. Honestly sometimes I look at the “cute” photos of animals in distress circling the internet and I get so angry over the ignorance.
^ I do the same thing. I think it’s amazing how most mammals “smile” when they’re angry/upset/threatening you, except for humans who smile to show we are ‘happy’. Interesting.
I think I did a p okay job on my eyeliner c:
It’s known as the “Bi/Pan debate”. Since the start of the gay rights movement, bisexuals have been fighting both straight and gay communities for visibility and validation. That fight has turned inwardly in the past couple of decades with the emergence of pansexuality.
Pansexual people may choose their identity over bisexuality to emphasize an attraction to those beyond the male/female gender binary.
But does this mean that bisexuals are exclusively attracted to male born masculine men and female born feminine women? No. On the surface, bi suggests an attraction to two genders: male and female. However, the binary that bisexual refers to is same (homo) and different (hetero).
Until recently, I thought the term pansexual was a copout. I thought of it as a way people could be honest about their bisexuality without being stigmatized by a word with so much negative connotation. I saw how the pansexual movement contributed to bi erasure by suggesting that the term was obsolete, and added to the stigma of being bisexual by suggesting bisexual attraction was exclusive to trans people. And it hasn’t stopped with Pansexual. There’s polysexual, multisexual, omnisexual, ambisexual, sapiosexual, fluid, and so on. The list of non-monosexual identities get’s longer all the time.
Because of this linguistic limbo, bisexuals are accused of being inherently cis-sexist in queer circles. Any bisexual activist will tell you how frustrating these accusations are, especially those in relationships with trans and genderqueer individuals.
People feel very strongly about the word ‘bisexual’. Some people have been fighting for it their whole lives, and other people see it as a complete joke. I am one of the few men I know personally who embrace the term, and that in itself is an isolating experience.
The bisexual community has adopted a definition that makes bisexual the umbrella term for all non-monosexual identities. Bisexuality is simply defined (by bisexuals) as attraction to more than one gender. All groups of people have the right to define themselves, and outsiders will always try to impose their own definitions. In the end, it is the community itself who has final say on what it is.
I would like to go one step further and suggest that bisexuality is attraction to more than one identity. While bisexual is it’s own unique orientation, it does include elements of both ‘gay’ and ‘straight’. It attempts to serve as an umbrella term for all identities that are neither gay or straight, and by that very nature it is not exclusive to any single one identity.
I recently met a wonderful pansexual identified girl. We got into the most extensive debate about bi vs pan I have ever had. I told her that what I disliked most about the word ‘pansexual’ was having to explain what it is to people who had never heard the term before. She told me that it was her favorite part! If she tells someone that she’s pansexual and they ask what that it means, that’s her invitation to educate people about the complexities of gender and sexuality. It was humbling to recognize that this was something I disliked about my own identity. Often when I tell people I am bisexual, the conversation ends right then and there. After explaining to her in great detail why I resonate with the term bisexual, she asked me “So, do you identify as queer?”
And that’s when it hit me. Even pansexual people see bisexuals as some watered down version of queer. Part queer or half queer or temporarily queer.
Guess what? Bisexuals are as queer as it gets.
Bisexuals are not only queer to straight people, they are also queer to gay people. They are queer whether they are in a same sex relationship or a different sex relationship. Bisexuals are queer when they are single or married or divorced or dead. Bisexuals are so queer that it may seem impossible for them to find each other outside of the internet. Bisexuals are queer, even when they spend their whole lives trying to be straight (or gay), which more than half of them do.
Somebody recently asked me what the difference between gay/lesbian and queer was. I told them that queer doesn’t stop at gay and lesbian. Queer is a term that represents everyone who’s gender and sexual variation has outcasted them. Queer is bi or pan, transgender, intersex, asexual, and so on. Queer encompasses everyone who differs from the norm.
A bisexual activist once told me that I shouldn’t identify as queer. I should identify as bisexual every time because the more I assert my bisexual identity specifically, the more it will be accepted.
I view that as separatism, and I reject it.
I am a queer bisexual. Some say that I am gay because I am a man who has sex with men, and that’s fine with me. I might be perceived as pansexual because I kissed a beautiful trans man last month and I am also OK with that. I sometimes feel genderqueer because I have both masculine and feminine attributes. I’m not sure if I believe that monogamy is right for me, so I guess that makes me poly-curious.
My point is this: If bisexuals want to be the umbrella term that we claim to be, we must embrace every identity choice, even if we think it contradicts our own. There are pansexual identified people who are in relationships with cisgendered people and there are bisexual identified people who are in relationships with trans people, and it isn’t anyones right to re-identify those people.
All non-monosexual people are part of the same community, and the fractioning of that community because of difference in identity is a travesty. The definitions of the various non-monosexual identities have more overlapping similarities than they do unreconcilable differences, and it should be celebrated that we have so many different ways of expressing our complexities.
It’s time that bi and pan people recognize that we are equally queer. And just because being queer makes us different from others, doesn’t mean that we’re all that different from each other.
Cameron Kude is a bisexual community advocate, aspiring filmmaker, and non-fiction writer. He has lived as a total cliché in Portland, Oregon since 2011. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
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ONLY DAYS LEFT TO RAISE FUNDS, URGENT LIFE OR DEATH HELP NEEDED ONE LAST TIME
Tumblr friends. You all saved my life. Unfortunately I need help one last time to keep it that way.You helped me pay down a hospital bill so I could have major brain surgery in October. Well, the bill for that is $9,600- Medicaid covered the hospital, NOT the doctor(!!). due to financial hardship, it’s reduced to $4,500.
The problem: the doctor HAS TO adjust and monitor my new neuro implant every other week, and I WILL DIE WITHOUT THE ADJUSTMENTS. But he is NOT ALLOWED to see me more than once more unless this is paid.
The reduction has conditions: I must pay $1,000 by Dec 16, the$3,500 balance by Dec 23.
This is a terrible blow to me, unreal. I can’t stop crying in sheer frustration.
So, sadly, I must ask for help one least time (I can get on Free Care in April). You’ve all already been so generous. The SPNFamily, and Tumblr at large has been amazing. And if there were any way to avoid asking, I would.
PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN! I’ve set up a PayPal with the email email@example.com to accept funds (if you “send to a friend” there’s no fee). The hospital can only accept payment from me.
I know the Holidays are already an expensive time. Maybe give someone the gift of saving a life in their name? And I know I recently got so much help from you all. If I had any way to avoid this I would. And of course I’m happy to repay with fics, songs, editing, or anything I can.
As it is I’m also homeless and sometimes staying with my violent abusive parents, other times staying with friends. Every cent I get is going to other medical expenses and necessities.
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Thank you all so so much! Below are some photos just to show what I mean. They called me with the settlement, but the original bill is there, as well as a few of my scars (yes they shaved the whole side of my head).
Thank you again! PLEASE DONATE AND SHARE IF YOU CAN, and ask me any questions.
Sopranish is my friend, and I’ve personally witnessed the reality of her struggles, so I can vouch for both the urgency and the legitimacy of this plea for help. She is on a time crunch and really scared, so any shares or donations would be so, so appreciated. Every little thing helps!!
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A woman was left gobsmacked when she learned the gold ring she stumbled across in a field was 2,000 years old.
That is the perfect gif for this.
"When he told me it was an ancient gold ring, it felt like a gift from the underworld," Lundin told The Local. "It was my magnificent ring. I didn’t want to give it up."